For some addicts, holding on to the idea that they are quitting “forever” is very important—we need that big goal. I am one such addict. To quit, I needed the grand promise that I was quitting forever, that my using days were definitely over and behind me. Crystal was to be banished from my life henceforth! If this works for you, great. Hold up that big prize and keep it in sight.
But not everyone thinks this way. And, even if you do, there will most likely be moments during your early recovery when you really crave a hit of meth.
At times like these, it might not help to think about quitting “forever.” Here, it’s better to think in terms of days, sometimes even minutes or hours. Come on, not using for a day is a lot easier than not using for a month!
Sometimes it pays to keep your goal of quitting small and easier to reach.
Don’t set yourself up for failure if “quitting forever” seems too overwhelming. When I had a craving in my first few months, I would promise myself that, if I still had the craving tomorrow, I’d use then. Here was the bargain: I merely needed to postpone using today until tomorrow and then I could have one last party. (And I was serious—it was a real promise.) At first, this sounds like a recipe for relapse, right? Here’s what happened. Every time without fail, when tomorrow came, I felt one thing—immense gratitude that I didn’t use the day before.
Keep the goal of quitting small when you need to, but keep the goal of quitting for today.